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Unity's world globe with seagull
Unity Center
in western NC
The Trouble Tree The Greediest Companies
Starfish Recipe for a Happy Year
Imagine To Learn to Walk Again
Roles & How We Play Them Years of Learning
A Place to Stand Grandmothers
A Place to Stand

     If you have ever gone through a toll booth, you know that your relationship to the person in the booth is not the most intimate you'll ever have. It is one of life's frequent non-encounters: You hand over some money; you might get change; you drive off.
     Late one morning in 1984, headed for lunch in San Francisco, I drove toward a booth. I heard loud music. It sounded like a party. I looked around. No other cars with their windows open. No sound trucks. I looked at the toll booth. Inside it, the man was dancing.
     "What are you doing?" I asked.
     "I'm having a party," he said.
     "What about the rest of the people?" I looked at the other toll booths.
     He said, "What do those look like to you?" He pointed down the row of toll booths.
     "They look like...toll booths. What do they look like to you?"
     He said, "Vertical coffins. At 8:30 every morning, live people get in. Then they die for eight hours. At 4:30, like Lazarus from the dead, they reemerge and go home. For eight hours, brain is on hold, dead on the job. Going through the motions."
     I was amazed. This guy had developed a philosophy, a mythology about his job. Sixteen people dead on the job, and the seventeenth, in precisely the same situation, figures out a way to live. I could not help asking the next question: "Why is it different for you? You're having a good time."
     He looked at me. "I knew you were going to ask that. I don't understand why anybody would think my job is boring. I have a corner office, glass on all sides. I can see the Golden Gate, San Francisco, and the Berkeley hills. Half the Western world vacations here...and I just stroll in every day and practice dancing."

~ Dr. Charles Garfield
from Condensed Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Patty Hansen

Grandmothers

Many years ago, a four-year-old girl named Sandra Louise Doty described what she thought a grandmother was like. She said, "A grandmother is a lady who has no children of her own, so she likes other people's little girls. A grandfather is a man grandmother. He goes for walks with the boys, and they talk about fishing and tractors and things like that. Grandmas don't have to do anything except be there. They're old, so they shouldn't play hard or run. It is enough if they drive us to the market where the pretend horse is and have lots of dimes ready. Or if they take us for walks, they should slow down past things like pretty leaves or caterpillars. They should never, every say, 'Hurry up.'"

"Usually, they are fat, but not too fat to tie kids shoes. They wear glasses and funny underwear. They can take off their teeth and gums. They don't have to be smart, only answer questions like why dogs hate cats and how come God isn't married. They don't talk baby talk like visitors do,because it is hard to understand. When they read to us, they don't skip or mind if it is the same story again."

"Everybody should try to have a grandmother, especially if you don't have television, because grandmas are the only grown-ups who have got time."

Years of Learning

I've learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we sing "Silent Night."
- Age 6

I've learned that you can't hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk. -Age 7

I've learned that when I wave to people in the country, they stop what they are doing and wave back. -Age 9

I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it, Mom makes me clean it up. -Age 13

I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should try cheering someone else up. -Age 14

I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly glad my parents are strict with me. -Age 15

I've learned that silent company is often more healing than words of advice.-Age 24

I've learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's great pleasures. -Age 26

I've learned that wherever I go, the worlds worst drivers have followed me there. -Age 29

I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it. -Age 39

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but just don't know how to show it. -Age 41

I've learned that you can make someone's day by simply sending them a little card. - Age 44

I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the greater his need to cast blame on others. -Age 46

I've learned that children and grandparents are natural allies. -Age 47

I've learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits for hours. -Age 49

I've learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away from the phone.
-Age 50

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. -Age 52

I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a medicine cabinet full of pills. - Age 52

I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you miss them terribly after they die. - Age 53

I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life. - Age 58

I've learned that if you want to do something positive for your children, try to improve your marriage. - Age 61

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. - Age 62

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back. -Age 64

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you. -Age 65

I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness, I usually make the right decision. -Age 66

I've learned that everyone can use a prayer. - Age 72

I've learned that it pays to believe in miracles. And to tell the truth, I've seen several. -Age 73

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. -Age 82

I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. -Age 85

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn. - Age 92

Roles & How We Play Them

Whenever I'm disappointed with my spot in my life, I stop and think about little Jamie Scott. Jamie was trying out for a part in a school play. His mother told me that he'd set his heart on being in it, though she feared he would not be chosen. On the day the parts were awarded, I went with her to collect him after school. Jamie rushed up to her, eyes shining with pride and excitement. "Guess what Mom," he shouted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson to me: "I've been chosen to clap and cheer."
Lazlo's Chinese Relativity Axiom:
No matter how great your triumphs or how tragic your defeats---approximately one billion Chinese couldn't care less.
"A Lesson In Heart"

A lesson in "heart" is my little, 10 year old daughter, Sarah, who was born with a muscle missing in her foot and wears a brace all the time.

She came home one beautiful spring day to tell me she had competed in "field day"- that's where they have lots of races and other competitive events. Because of her leg support, my mind raced as I tried to think of encouragement for my Sarah, things I could say to her about not letting this get her down-but before I could get a word out, she said, "Daddy, I won two of the races!"

I couldn't believe it! And then Sarah said, "I had an advantage." Ahh. I knew it. I thought she must have been given a head start...some kind of physical advantage. But again, before I could say anything, she said, "Daddy, I didn't get a head start... My advantage was I had to try harder!"

"The Trouble Tree"

The carpenter I hired to help me restore an old farmhouse had just finished a rough first day on the job. A flat tire made him lose an hour of work, his electric saw quit and now his ancient pickup truck refused to start. While I drove him home, he sat in stony silence.

On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. When opening the door he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.

Afterward he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.

"Oh, that's my Trouble Tree," he replied. "I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing for sure, troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning I pick them up again. Funny thing is," he smiled, "when I come out in the morning to pick em up, there ain't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before."

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow,
for tomorrow will worry about itself.
Each day has enough trouble of its own."
-- Matthew 6:34
~ Bettie Lee Wilson

"The Nine Greediest Companies"

As part of Holiday of Conscience efforts in December to promote human rights and dignity for workers, the National Labor Committee (NLC), announced the nine "greediest" sweatshop abusers: Nike, Wal-Mart, Guess?, Walt Disney Co., Kmart, JCPenny, Esprit, Victoria's Secret and May's Department Stores.

At the Wellco Factory in Dungguan, China, which makes Nike shoes, workers put in shifts of 11-12 hours per day, seven days a week, with possibly every other Sunday off. If workers cannot stay and work late, they are fired. Wages are as low as 16 cents per hour, $6.92 per week, $358.84 per year. Most workers have never heard of the Nike code of conduct. There is no union; workers are afraid they will be fired if they complain.

At the Undergarment Fashion factory in the Dominican Republic which sews for Victoria's Secret, wages are well below subsistence and attempts to meet or organize a union are met with firings and blacklisting. In 1990, the company fired all 3,000 workers rather than accept a union. When another attempt was made in 1992, 25 union organizers were fired. In January 1997, a legal union was formed. Management immediately and illegally fired the union's general secretary, Nieve Medina, and has refused to reinstate her. The company's general manager Mr. Ruiz, is now threatening to shut the factory down and relocate to Honduras.

For years, the Walt Disney Company has produced garments in Haiti, paying workers, for example, 6 cents for every $19.99 outfit with 101 Dalmatians motifs that they sewed. When faced with protests from human rights activists over conditions in its factories, Disney's contractor H.H. Cutler pulled out of Haiti saying there was no work. However, the NLC found H.H. Cutler sewing Lion King, Dalmatians and Hercules clothing for Disney in a maquiladora along the U.S.-Mexican border that had "help wanted" signs posted. No worker at the factory had ever heard of the Disney code of conduct. Back in Haiti, when workers tried to organize another Disney contractor, L.V. Myles, 150 workers were fired.

May Co. stores (which include Hecht's, Lord & Taylor, Filene's, Robinsons-May, Kaufmann's Famous-Barr, Foley's, Strawbridge's and Meier & Frank) is one of the largest and most profitable retailers in the U.S. with $11.6 billion in annual sales -- and one of the least responsive on the issue of sourcing standards and sweatshops. A recent investigation in Indonesia found a May Co. contractor with 12-hour shifts for 13 and 14 year olds, with workers sometimes forced to work 24-hour shifts.

As exposed in a recent series of Hard Copy programs, Wal-Mart, Kmart and JCPenney use contractors in the Free Trade Zone in Nicaragua which pay only 20 cents an hour for producing their Arizona jeans, Faded Glory shirts and other garments for the U.S. market. Nine workers were fired after the programs aired; four were among those who spoke on camera about wages and conditions. The others were involved in union organizing efforts.

Last July, California state officials raided illegal industrial homework operations used by Guess? contractors. And Guess? has abandoned thousands of workers in Los Angeles to produce clothing in Mexico where workers earn a fraction of U.S. wages.

In China, Esprit pays wages as low as 13 cents an hour; workers are forced to work 7 days a week, up to 93 hours. At the factory in Guanthou, workers told human rights investigators,"We rarely get a day off and when we do, it is a mixed blessing because we need the income." If they tried to organize to defend their rights, workers said they would be immediately fired.

~For more info, including addresses where you can write the chief executive officers of the companies, check the National Labor Committee's web site at http://www.nlc.org or contact: NLC, 275 Seventh Ave., 15th fl., New York, NY 10001; (212) 242-3002

"Starfish"

As a man walked a desolate beach one cold, gray morning he began to see another figure, far in the distance. Slowly the two approached each other, and he could make out a local native who kept leaning down, picking something up and throwing it out into the water. Time and again he hurled things into the ocean.

As the distance between them continued to narrow, the man could see that the native was picking up starfish that had been washed upon the beach and, one at a time, was throwing them back into the water.

Puzzled, the man approached the native and asked what he was doing. "I'm throwing these starfish back into the ocean. You see, it's low tide right now and all of these starfish have been washed up onto the shore. If I don't throw them back into the sea, they'll die up here from lack of oxygen."

"But there must be thousands of starfish on this beach," the man replied. "You can't possibly get to all of them. There are just too many. And this same thing is probably happening on hundreds of beaches all up and down this coast. Can't you see that you can't possibly make a difference?"

The local native smiled, bent down and picked up another starfish, and as he threw it back into the sea he replied, "Made a difference to that one!"

Each of us is but one person: limited, burdened with our own cares and responsibilities. We may feel there is so much to be done, and we have so little to give. We're usually short of everything, especially time and money. When we leave this shore, there will still be millions of starfish stranded on the beach. Maybe we can't change the whole world, but there isn't one of us who can't help change one person's whole world. One at a time. We DO make a difference.

~ author unknown

"Imagine"

by David Stearns - December, 1997

Imagine a world where most people were healthy in mind, body, and spirit. How would we treat each other? Would there still be war? Would there be drug and alcohol abuse? Would we nurture our home, Mother Earth?

I think this is what Jesus meant when He said the Kingdom of Heaven is among us. He also said"seek first the Kingdom of Heaven and all else will be added to you." I think He was talking about being healthy in mind, body, and spirit.

The way to a better world is for each of us to put our own health as our #1 priority. Is this selfish? We are all like cells of a larger organism, humanity. If the cells aren't healthy, how can humanity be healthy?

The secret is for each of us to do this unilaterally. This is not an easy path. It is man and womankind's last great adventure. There will be no real change for the better in the world until most of us are healthy. Look at history. We keep making the same mistakes, generation after generation. Times change, but human nature remains the same.

Take some time apart to sit down and reflect. How is the health of your mind, body, and spirit? Abraham Maslow's characteristics of a self-actualized person are a good reference point for mental and emotional health. Check your physical health using the President's Council on Fitness guidelines. The four gospels of the Bible, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, provide some of the best spiritual teachings anywhere.

Make a leap of faith, start improving your health in small ways. See how your life and the lives of those around you improve when you start taking better care of yourself. Don't be satisfied comparing yourself to other people; see how you measure up to the ideal. Aim for the stars.

© 1997 David Stearns

"To Learn to Walk Again"

This is an interesting story of one Unitic's early life... a life of patience... that became a life of service...

October, 1928:
For more than three years, little Dick Penick, age 7, has been a patient in the Kiwanis Orthopedic Ward at Memorial Hospital, with his back, deformed by tuberculosis of the spine, encased in an iron frame. He has been restored to normal health by one of the most difficult and spectacular operations employed by surgical science.

By grafting a shin bone (removed from Dick's left leg), the surgeons bridged over the part of the backbone destroyed by tuberculosis, leaving 8" scars. After four months of convalesence following the operation, Dick had a brand new back, straight and firm, the knuckle gone, the crouch disappeared, the shambling gait no longer there, as he learned to walk again, upright and firm of step. Dick's mother, who steadfastly refused to become discouraged as she wended her way to the hospital daily, was crying with joy as she took Dick home to Hooversville.

Four and a half years ago, Dick fell from a kiddie car, weakened by having had flu, pneumonia, and chickenpox all in one year. While the injury from his back might have been trivial for a normal child, Dick's resistance was low and tuberculosis of the spine set in, destroying parts of the backbone and dooming him to a life as a hunchback. His five brothers and sisters helped him to get around in his heavy plaster casts.

But his condition worsened and he was admitted to the hospital in 1925 for "conservative rest" to wait for nature to wipe out the tuberculosis germ. For three years, he rested patiently and faithfully on his iron frame, in the same bed, in the same sunny location, being prepared for the operation that would cure him.

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Dick Penick, M.D., is now a Unity member who lives in Jensen Beach, FL, and Weaverville, NC, with his wife Tellie. He retired from his medical practice 11 years ago. As "Lil Dickens", he can occasionally be seen as a clown with Health Adventure clown group. He writes, "With great pleasure I grant you permission to use my story in any way it might serve as an inspiration to others."

"Recipe for a Happy Year"

Take twelve fine, full-grown months;
see that these are thoroughly free of all old memories of
Bitterness, Rancor, Hate and Jealousy;
cleanse them completely from every clinging Spite or Rumor;
pick off all specks of Pettiness and Littleness;
in other words, see that these months are freed from all the past -
make them as fresh and as clean
as when they first came from the great storehouse of Time.

Now cut each month into 28, 30 or 31 equal but different parts.
Do not attempt to make up the whole batch at one time
(so many persons spoil the entire lot this way),
but prepare it ***ONE DAY*** at a time.

Into each day put equal parts of:
Faith, Patience, Courage, Work,
(some people omit this ingredient and so spoil the flavor of the rest)
Hope, Fidelity, Liberality, Generosity, Kindness, and Rest
(leaving this out is like leaving the oil out of the salad - don't do it).

Blend with:
Prayer, Meditation, and selected Good Deeds.

Season with:
a teaspoonful of Good Spirits,
a dash of Fun, a sprinkle of Play,
a pinch of Folly and a heaping cupful of Good Humor.

Pour Love into the whole
and mix with Vim.

Cook thoroughly with Fervent heat.
Garnish with Smiles and a sprig of Radiant Joy.

Serve with Quietness, Unselfishness, and Cheerfulness.

~ Anonymous

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